What Do You Want To Create?

Turn a wish into a result you are willing to practice creating.

There is a difference between asking what you want and asking what you want to create.

The first question can leave you waiting. Waiting for an opportunity, more confidence, or someone to give you permission. The second invites you to participate.

What result do you want to create in your life? A different career? A business? A trip you keep imagining? Let yourself name it before you dismiss it because you do not yet know every step.

Work backward from the result you want

The Self Coaching Model describes how thoughts create feelings, feelings drive actions, and actions create results. You can also use that relationship backward to explore a goal.

Write the result you want at the bottom of your Model. Then ask what actions would help you create it. What feeling would support those actions? What would you need to think to generate that feeling?

For example, if you want to build a coaching business, your actions might include practicing your skills, making offers, and learning from the response. Commitment may help you keep taking those actions. A useful thought could be that you are willing to learn how to build this business.

This is more specific than waiting to feel ready. It gives you something to practice today.

Expect a gap between old and new beliefs

You may currently believe you cannot create the result. You may want to believe you can. Those two thoughts can coexist for a while.

I call that uncomfortable space between models the river of misery. You have not fully settled into the new belief, and the old one still feels familiar.

That discomfort does not mean you chose the wrong goal. It can be part of learning to think differently. Notice whether your new thought actually produces the feeling you intended, rather than simply sounding impressive on paper.

Write and rehearse your new lines

Think about preparing for a role in a play. You would not read the script once and expect to perform it effortlessly. You would learn your lines and practice them.

You can approach intentional thinking in a similar way. Write down the thoughts you want to practice. Read them. Repeat them. You might record them on your phone so you can listen again.

But memorizing the words is only part of the work. Ask what the person living that future would feel. Practice connecting with the emotion instead of reciting sentences you do not believe.

Practice being your future self

Imagine a real moment in the life you want to create. How would you approach a challenge? What would you do when an offer was declined or a first attempt did not work?

Choose a thought that helps you participate in that moment. You do not have to know the entire route before you take a useful step. You do need to be willing to act, observe what happens, and keep learning.

Mental rehearsal is preparation for showing up differently. Give the practice an action to support. Send the offer, schedule the practice session, or set aside time to learn the skill.

Make creation a daily practice

Start with one result you want. Build a backward Model. Identify the gap between your current thinking and the thinking you want to develop.

Then write one believable line and rehearse it with the feeling you want to bring to your work. Follow it with a concrete action.

You may be used to following a ready-made script for your life. This exercise asks you to write the next part deliberately. You can begin before you feel like the person who has already arrived.